Time

I have noticed that I, over time, have become more pragmatic, and (even) more straight to the point.In my personal as well as my professional life.

I have also come to realize that the main reason for this, is that I have come to understand that time is our most valuable asset, and I am choosing to spend it wisely.

If I am to break down the work that I do with my clients to the core, I would say that it all comes down to this;

What are you doing with your time?

Subquestions to that, would be;

How do you want to spend it?

With whom do you want to spend it?

Where do you want to spend it?

My personal life has taught me not to take time for granted, that tomorrow is promised to no one, and therefore to live by conscious design rather than with the belief that I am in the hands of circumstances.

I always have a choice.

As long as I am breathing I have a choice.

During the last several decades, I have done a lot of this work, in my own life (and I still do), and those who come and do work with me get to hear some of this, when it is relevant for their process. I am walking the talk – still being human, which means that I have my moments where I struggle to some extent. The big difference since a long time though, is that I now have moments, and only moments, and the level of struggle is lighter.

Because through doing the work, I have come to, and learned, to love, respect and honor myself, which also means my time. And well… I no longer entertain egos… Including my own 🙂

Time is precious. Priceless. Limited.

Time does not “do” anything. It does not heal.

It just passes.

What w e do, with(in) it though, is everything.

What are you doing with your time….?

Your truth will set you free

The other day I posted a cover pic on my FB page that says: “The truth will set me free. And first it will piss me off”.

So which “truths” do you have? What is “truth” to you? Who´s “truths” are you carrying? Are your “truths” carved in stone or can they be changed? Can you change them?

In all these questions, there is one that I suggest you pay some extra attention to…

“What is truth to y o u”?

All my posts there, always point to this question.

This is the core of life. For me.

Your life. Your truths.

When I end my posts with versions of “Be true to yourself”, how can you be that, if you don´t know what your truths are?

What I do know, is that most people live their lives, based on other peoples´”truths”. Just dragging them along (the truths – well sometimes the people too…).

Without being aware of this.

Then they pass them on to their children. Sometimes even though they swore they would not “be” like their parent/s.

When they come and work with me, and become aware of their “truths”, especially those that clearly aren´t their own, that´s were the being “pissed off” happens. At first. Then there is a pretty predictable development as in how this seeking-my-truths process proceeds. All good 🙂

This is what some truths are; programming. Other peoples “truths”, as in values, beliefs and judgements.

So.

Would you like to lose some weight? The psychological and spiritual kind?

I´m not gonna tell you what your truths are.

I will, however, help you to identify the ones you have and the ones´that are really yours (some of which you may really want but never thought could be), and guide you in what you want to do with them 🙂

Come do some work with me. Let´s find out what is truth to you. And what isn´t…

Welcome 🙏

Be true to yourself

“It’s much easier to be fired for being illogical/unconventional and right than being unimaginative and wrong”.

This is also true in other contexts of any kind of group constellations. 

Conformity is religion. Dogma. Deeply rooted in the worlds belief system. 

Except when you read job ads’.

You never see an ad for a job that says; ” We are looking for a follower, somebody who does not ask questions of any kind, someone who does not think for themselves, someone who does not have their own opinions, someone who has common sense, someone we can use and abuse as we see fit, someone who is exactly what we already have in our staff, someone who does not stand out in any way.

Isn’t that interesting? Pick a job ad, any job ad and I promise you that you will read the exact opposite of what I wrote here above.

So far all is well.

BUT,

And yes, then there is a big BUT. Huge. 

What is then the reality out there in the real world, far away from the job ads’….? 

All the opposites of what I wrote above, how are they working out, fitting in, at the work places…? Well received? Encouraged?

Not so much, huh…

Those who have been following my work for a while, those who know me, more or less, have read or heard my words over and over again:

Be. True. To. Yourself.

There is nothing more important than this.

Everything you see from me is about this.

Everything I teach is about this.

Every client I work with gets to hear this. Through both ears. Repeatedly.

The strategies for this, to be true to yourself, are endless.

I have an infinite toolbox of them that I am giving out in every client session I am in.

Come get some!

Be. True. To. You.

One day at a time

September 15 2019.

So I live to tell about another September 15.

On this date, 26 years ago today, I walked into a room, on wobbly legs, at least that´s how they felt. In my mind and heart, I entered that room on my knees. I didn´t know it at the time, but I had indeed surrendered.

I had no more fight in me. I had no more, “I will do this MY way”, or “don´t tell me what to do”, in me.

I just knew. Without understanding it, I knew.

I could not live like this any longer, not one more day. I was on a fast track to die, in every way that a person can die.

That day, what was really hanging on a thread, was my soul. It was broken. Shattered. Couldn´t take any more.

Earlier that morning, or very late the night before, a miracle did indeed take place. I reached out. I called that number, disturbing a bunch of people in their good nights´sleep, to get to a friend who I knew had been hoping to get this call, for a very long time… Years.

A bit into the conversation (cause initially I still had my masks and armors on, pretending everything was smooth sailing, which I knew very well how to do, I had done that for many years..) I asked her; “Help me. I´m dying here, and I don´t want to die. I want to live. I just don´t know how.”

What I experienced in that room that evening, changed my life. Changed me. And it has been a journey and a process ever since. On a daily basis. And will continue to be, as long as I am breathing.

One day at a time.

I am living what I learned, and still am learning.

I am not a saint. This is about progress, not perfection.

I trust the process.

Giving away what I got, or else I don´t get to keep it anymore.

My victory, couldn´t happen until I surrendered.

So many lessons. So much learning. Through so many people. In so many rooms just like that first one. In so many countries.

They are all my family. There is trust, there is love, there is support, there is experience, there is hope, there is belonging, there is gratitude, there is sharing. In my family.

I love you all. Those who walked before me, those who walk beside me, those who will walk after me.

I owe you everything. I owe you my life.

The connection, the love, the compassion, the respect, the gratitude, the acceptance – all for and to my global family.

I am me, but not who I was, and I am becoming, what I am not yet. In the making. Constantly. Curious. Open. Willing to learn and grow. Always.

One day at a time.

Grateful – and beyond…

Namasté 🙏❤️